donorbaby is 8 months now
July 6, 2011
My baby is almost a toddler now. 8 months and crawling for the past four weeks and keen to walk. It’s hard to summarise the past months in a short blog so I won’t even attempt it. Just this much: Every day is better than the last. I am thinking about two things lately. One is how to educate myself on how to speak with my son about who his dad is and the other one is if I want another one. Of course I do but can I manage on my own with two? Any thoughts?
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September 17, 2011 at 5:34 am
First of all, you need to write more often.
My baby is a toddler already. He started walking early at 9.5 months. He is now 12.5 months and is a master of walking already.
I definitely agree with you that every day is better than the last. I started truly enjoying him when he turned 12 months. We play a lot. He sleeps more regulary. It’s more fun and managable.
Although my baby has a father living with us, he has very limited help with his care taking. It is so typical of men. He only ‘plays’ with the child and has neither interest nor willingness to learn about the baby’s food/play/sleep schedule, developmental milestones, or discipline. If anything he sabotages most of the things I do for the child. For instance, he gives the baby chocolate just because he wanted. Or, he allows him to slam the doors just because he wanted. Father is so into allowing the baby to do what he wants.
I make more money than he does and I think my life could be even easier if he didn’t live with us. Hence, regarding thoughts of another baby, my only concern would be the increasing need for finances and help with domestic caretaking.
If you earn enough to raise two kids on your own and if you have a good nanny or support, then definitely go for another baby.
November 11, 2011 at 12:49 pm
Hello, sorry, you’re right. I do need to write more often. Just been through a tricky patch and my thoughts were somewhere else. I really appreciate your comments on your partner’s involvement in your child’s life. I hear this a lot from many of my friends and it makes you wonder if being a single mum is better. At least until the child is at an age where they start to not need you so much anymore. I hope you find a good solution. Sometimes talking helps to improve things, but I am aware that it only does help when the other side is willing to listen! My little one turned 1 last week. He is gorgeous and I love him more than anything in the world. Take care and all the best for you and your lirttle one.